A good day to everyone, now I am sorry for not posting for a couple days, actually it was just one, I take the apology back. Before you start thinking on the lines that I want to be a father or anything of the sort (like I may have knocked some girl up or something) I have not and I have no intentions of parenting before I am certain that I want my life to be over!! No offense to parents out their, but deep down inside, you know what I mean don’t you.
Today I thought of sharing my opinion on the issue of studies and parenting. In particular, Indian parenting. I say Indian because these are the only parents I can talk about, as these are the only kind of families I know and I have come real close to. As I have seen, Indian parents, if I am to use Aamir Khan’s words from Taare Zameen Par, they are building race horses. The whole select the right company (right meaning the kind that studies a lot and has no real life), get the top most marks, score well, study hard, study, study and study. End result, you have a kid that only knows how to study and cant handle himself/herself in the real world. I say this cause I have met plenty of the sort. No peoples skills, shy, and no confidence or command over any spoken language. On the other hand, if you focus on the kids life and give the kid everything he/she wants, you have a non scoring, easy going kid in your hands, who has everything in life very easy and respects none of it (I happen to be one as some people would say). This way, you have an arrogant (trying to get out of it), bratty (don’t want to get out of it), non-serious (can’t really say) kind of child.
The popular question I believe would be how to strike a balance . How to ensure that the kid gets the right kind of grooming without imposing your ideals on him. How to make sure your kid turns into a person, by himself/herself. Has the street smarts, and morals that he/she requires to make himself/herself a success. Now I have no idea how to go about that, and this is a question that has bothered me a lot!! How to go about it!! So now I ask you, to help me make sense of this in your comments. Help me ease this unrequired stress of my overthinking head, with you prestigious comments. Okay maybe I overdid it, but help!
Cant commit on this … since I am the parent that raises brats with oodles of street smarts and peoples skills
Parenting though a universal phenomenon is quite personal.. It depends on the upbringing of the father and mother. Although both parents belong to the same generation and have together brought forth a child in this world, at times their thinking on how to handle their kid can be different.
Every parent strives to give their child the best. Yes, in India, even today we want our children to pick ‘safe’, careers and thus the thrust on academics.
But it is important for parents to realize the potential, strengths and weaknesses of their child. They should build up on that and try to guide the child to a career choice which the child will enjoy.
As for other things like sports/ co curricular activities etc, one can make time for that too though in reality they fall behind academics.
Like i said parenting is personal and this is my take….